Monday, January 16, 2006


There have been some things going on within my extended family unit that have made me want to dig deeper and truly know what the meaning of integrity is. The Merriam-Webster Online Dictionary defines integrity to be: 1. firm adherence to a code of especially moral or artistic values: incorruptibility 2. an unimpaired condition: soundness 3. the quality or state of being complete or undivided. I decided to then look up what the word, "incorruptibility" meant (since I was looking at the first dictionary definition of integrity to describe something that I have been noticing within a certain family member of mine). According to Merriam-Webster, it means: incapable of corruption: as a : not subject to decay or dissolution b : incapable of being bribed or morally corrupted. Hmmm...this is definitely food for thought.

Well, I still want to dig deeper to define really the issue at hand. So, I looked up integrity on the Merriam-Webster Online Thesaurus. Here is what I have found:
Entry Word: integrity
Function: noun
Text: 1 conduct that conforms to an accepted standard of right and wrong -- see MORALITY 12 devotion to telling the truth -- see HONESTY 13 faithfulness to high moral standards -- see HONOR

OK. So to paint the picture in a little more detail, there is a certain person in my life whom I have viewed as more of a rock. Due to this person's new situation and the way he or she is choosing to live his/her life, integrity is being lost. This person isn't doing what he or she feels is right because it would make things uncomfortable for another person. In essence, this former rock-like figure in my life is showing themself to be spineless and honestly, I hate seeing this person's character seemingly diminish. It's not healthy. This person isn't living life the way his/her heavenly Father would want them to. This person is letting someone else call the shots (like, um, nearly 100% of the time, it seems). I feel as if I don't even know them anymore. It's really weird. Maybe I can describe everything fully later, but right now, I'm not at liberty to do so. I just needed to vent a bit and try to process some of the sea of thoughts and emotions that have been swirling around in my head and heart.


becky said...

Integrity is such a great word...really rich. I like to think of how it relates to the word integrated. If, as believers, we are integrated into the Father through Jesus, it's like being woven into his character, into what he's doing and what he is. From that relationship flows the desire and the ability to do what's right. It's when that relationship falters, it seems to me, that a person becomes less integrous. And it's pert near impossible to be a truly moral, integrous person without a relationship with the Lord in Christ, right. I mean, morality will always be subjective/relative without the plumbline of Christ, right? I'm sorry you're having issues and seeing someone whose character you admired wavering like this. Just remember, they're only human, and the best thing you can do is pray for them, that the Lord would return to being the central person of their life. (Okay, off my soapbox now!)

becky said...

Hey, Crystal! The idea book is yours! Send me your address via email--mine is It'll probably be Monday now before I get it to the post office...I just got back from there!